I first learned of Kyle Idleman when my small group did a study on his book ‘‘gods at war’. I found it well written and inspiring.
Recently I downloaded and started listening to the audible dot com version of “Not A Fanâ€. I was hooked listening to the introduction!!
As I continue to listen, he brings out the difference in being a FAN of Christ and being a FOLLOWER of Christ. One phrase in particular really stands out. He is reading from a follower who says “I was raised in church, but not in Christâ€.
How many of us were ‘raised in church, but not in Christ’? One is the same as the other, isn’t it? 
He uses a term I hadn’t heard, but understood the meaning: DTR – defining the relationship.
Kyle uses Scripture to show us the difference between being a fan of Jesus and a true follower of Jesus and helps you to ‘define the relationship’ you have or desire to have with Jesus Christ.
I highly recommend this book, whether in print or audio. If you are ready to take a look at your own life, or are considering what it means to follow Christ, this book will bring to light many things you may not have considered.